Men, I have some rather grim sexual news for you.
You won’t like it, but stick with me because I’m about to reveal the problem And the solution for you.
My very thorough research shows that you are doing sex all wrong.
You see, every Monday night on my Instagram I ask my followers to send me a Saucy Secret.
I share them anonymously with a sexy photo that I think fits the story.
Safe to say, they never disappoint.
Followers share what kind of kinks they like, stories of illicit affairs, flings with people of different sexual preferences, and plenty of other cheeky stories.
A common theme I find among the women is that a lot of of them fake orgasms – and I know (and understand) exactly why.
You see, men are doing it all wrong!
Watch any sex scene in any movie and you’d think a woman would have an orgasm as soon as a man inserts his old dude.
Yes, according to most movies, all a man has to do is push a woman against a wall, or assume the standard missionary position, and within seconds we’re moaning with pleasure.
The problem is that it doesn’t work that way in real life.
And our G-spot is not found so quickly.
Let’s start with the foreplay first.
Just before insertion we need a little warming up.
Don’t just undress and think we’re good to go.
Take it easy, make it fun.
Treat our bodies like an untamed jungle to be explored from head to toe.
Use your eyes And ears to see what gets us going.
Maybe start literally with our ears.
I recently read a meme that said, “Saying ‘good girl’ triggers something absolutely barbaric in my brain” and to that I say, “Hear, hear, sis!”
Seriously, start by winding us up with words – it shows confidence and commitment.
Then realize – and this is most important – that our G-spot is not necessarily on the inside.
Talking to a group of friends recently, we agreed that our orgasms very rarely come from ordinary penetration.
It usually comes from a very specific place.
Now grab a pen, guys, because you might want to write this down: It starts with a C and ends with a T.
Yes, my friends, it’s called the clitoris and you really want to pay close attention to it.
And I’m not just saying this based on my small number of girlfriends who agreed.
There is a real study that proves that women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm.
Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion reviewed data from 1,055 women ages 18 to 94 who answered a detailed online survey about their sex life, which found that the majority of women reported that they often fail to reach orgasm through intercourse alone to have.
This contradicts the stereotype that intercourse is the most important part of sexual activity.
It suggests that couples should explore the whole gamut of pleasurable options for reaching climax.
For example, oral stimulation or the use of stimulants.
Now it makes sense why the sex toy industry is making a lot of money on a new kind of vibrator designed specifically for the clitoral area.
I’ve gotten two from nice brands in the last month and I’m certainly not sorry about it.
One thing we women have to admit, though, is that we’re partly responsible for this misguided belief that women get orgasms from jackhammering.
Simply put, we’re lying.
In fact, we tend to lie a lot.
That earth-shattering orgasm you think you just gave us… well, give the girl an Oscar for faking it.
So quite impressive.
No wonder you think penetration is a fast track to orgasm.
We often make you think that’s the case.
The reality is we got bored and decided to wrap things up.
So let’s clear this up once and for all.
Men, start paying more attention to our clitoral area – and if you don’t know where that is, do a quick Google search.
It will blow your mind.
And women, stop faking orgasms.
Instead, maybe push your man in the right direction and only moan when you mean it.
sorted.
Now start enjoying a satisfying (and honest) sex life.
